Divorce Battle Rages On - Vegan Lifestyle to Blame

Okay this is just a little too nutty, even for me. As most of you know, I’m nowhere near vegetarian, but I do have respect for those who choose not to eat meat for whatever reason as long as it’s not crammed down my throat that I’m some kind of monster for choosing otherwise.

In Florida, there’s a raging divorce-custody battle going on based upon quintuplets and their mother who has them on a super strict vegan diet. The mother won’t even let the kids see their paternal grandparents because they have leather furniture in the house, and that (of course) means that they’re likely to feed the kids meat. Yes, all grandparents live their lives to go against the wishes of their children… don’tchaknow?

Of course, I’m completely aware of the nature of grandparents to be a little more of the type to give in to a child’s wishes or demands, or are more likely to spoil them, but come off it already… If I had kids, and told my parents that I didn’t want them eating peanut butter, they wouldn’t feed them peanut butter, I’m quite sure. Especially if the kids never had peanut butter before and didn’t know what they were missing.

In this unusual custody fight in Florida, the quintuplets’ father, Jeff Nelson-Folkerson, says in court papers that he should have custody of the 10-year-olds, citing his wife’s “serious psychological control issues,” first and foremost of which is imposing a strict vegan diet on the kids, a diet “so strict, in fact, that she rarely allows the children to visit their paternal grandparents because they have leather furniture in their home” and might let the children eat animal-based foods. [ABC News]

I agree - she does have serious psychological control issues. I’m willing to bet that if one of the kids gained 5 pounds she’d put it on a treadmill for a couple hours a day or teach it to vomit after eating. Can’t have fat babies, you know!

In this fast-food-friendly nation where pediatric obesity has been called a form of child abuse by some doctors, the law does not directly address the legality of imposing a strict vegan diet on children.

While I would never condone feeding your child a heavily junk food filled diet, I would also never condone limiting your child’s diet so strictly. Vegetarian diets for kids are even okay, or allowing only fish or free range meats I can understand. (There are so many variations on restricted diets these days!) But think of it this way; When even one of those kids goes to college (or high school even) and sees their friends eating pizza, having a good time, and decides to take a bite - all hell WILL break loose.


Why can’t people just raise their kids to eat healthy food but allow them to still be kids, and just teach them about nutrition so that they can grow up to be fully functioning adults capable of making educated decisions? I have a cousin in my family who would ration her kids’ candy/cookie/junk food consumption. I remember thinking back then that it was kind of strict and a control issue, however when I look at me as an overweight adult and them as healthy young adults without weight issues, pimples, or other issues - I’m kind of convinced that’s the way to go. I mean, she’d count out 10 m&m’s for the kids for dessert. Or ONE cookie. The whole package would be right there in plain sight, but the kids got a serving size portion. She didn’t restrict them from being kids, she allowed them to have treats the way that everyone should have treats.

Another friend of mine limits her child’s time on video games, often requiring him to spend a certain amount of time outside riding his bike with his friends or playing basketball or what have you before he’s allowed to have half an hour on the PlayStation. I think that’s FABULOUS. He gets to spend time socializing (which is beneficial to developing as a human being) as well as just relaxing and having a good time playing with the latest technology (which teaches him about things like computer graphics and game technology - a highly profitable career choice should he decide to go that route) and the kid doesn’t feel like a loser when all his friends are talking about the latest game at lunch in school for a week.

…if this issue is about the alleged excessive control and mental health of the mother, the father’s attorney might be able to argue that she is impairing the children’s relationships to the father and the father’s family, driven by her alleged concern for example, about the grandparent’s leather furniture and nonvegan lifestyle.

Balance. Moderation. Learning. Good choices.

Isn’t that what being a parent means in terms of raising children?

Things like, “Ewwwww, meat!” coming out of a 10 year old’s mouth just kind of make me cringe. It’s the same as hearing them say, “Ewwwww, fat girl!”

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4 Responses to “ Divorce Battle Rages On - Vegan Lifestyle to Blame ”

  1. I agree that this person sounds wacky, but stories like this bother me because they add fuel to the fire that all vegans (and even vegetarians) are extremist nut jobs. It seems the only time vegan diets make the news is when they’re carried out to an unhealthy, crazy extreme. I wrote an entry about this kind of thing recently.

    (In case it’s not clear, this comment is not intended to be critical of you. Just giving my two cents. :-)

  2. I agree with Miss Rachel, there is nothing wrong with a Vegan lifestyle if that’s what the mother choses. At least she is taking her children’s diet seriously. It’s better then the countless moms that allow their kids to live off of soda and sugar. Most of the vegans I know (or have heard of) choose that lifestyle because of the health benefits.

    I also agree with Rachel on this point… (In case it’s not clear, this comment is not intended to be critical of you. Just giving my two cents. :-)

    signed,
    Mother of a toddler who choses moderation for her little one. ;~)

  3. Oh you guys should know by now that I take no offense to differing opinions… :)

    Believe me - I totally grasp the idea of using moderation and everything with kids. I can even understand vegans imparting the vegan philosophy on their children (afterall, isn’t that what parents are supposed to do? teach their children the best they can about what’s good and bad for them? sure is.)

    What bothers me is that this woman in particular is being overly restrictive. She’s acting like the world’s out to harm her and her children - she won’t even let them go to their grandparents’ home because of the leather on the sofa? I think that’s absurd…

    I think part of the problem lies in that she’s expecting everyone to accept HER choices for herself and her children and she’s teaching her kids to be judgemental, negative, and distrustful of people soley based on what they choose to eat. Yet she refused to acknowledge the fact that just because someone eats meat doesn’t make them a monster… I think it’s a bullshit case and is a plea for attention. (I won’t even get into it here how much I think it’s a plea for attention, but if you search my site enough, you’ll find it.)

    I would NEVER condone or commend someone for letting their child eat whatever and whenever they wanted. I would never suggest that McDonald’s is a great alternative to cooking dinner when there’s a whiny 4 year old in the backseat on your way home from the dry cleaners.

    But I’d also never keep my children from their paternal grandparents over a leather sofa, assuming that means that they’re going to forcefeed my child hot dogs.

  4. i don’t know. working in bloomington indiana, i have witnessed many a vegan. they have children and they don’t eat meat or meat products not even honey. (honey has a face) and that is just the way it is. just as it is a fact that we don’t eat until after church in my family. and we eat meat. and as far as what is being said in court. as someone who has spent many many many hours in court with her daughters father. life inside the courtroom isn’t always as life is on the outside. so it may be that she isn’t allowing the children over there for another reason. maybe they do feed the children meat. i give up meat for lent every year. and do you realize the yucky feeling i have the first day of having meat back in my diet. if the children’s tummys aren’t used to dairy or meat. they may be sent home to a mommy who has to deal with sick kids who aren’t used to eating such things. ( every weekend my daughter’s father would take her to KFC then bring her home. where she would consequently throw up later that night. usually in my bed) i don’t know where i started off here or am going with this. but i just think that one of two things. the mother is psycho. or the dad’s attorney is taking something completely out of context here.

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